Learning your child has a developmental disability or delay can come with a range of emotions. On top of your own emotions as a parent, talking with family members about your child’s disability may be difficult due to their own concerns or lack of understanding.

Below are some tips on how to talk with family members about your child’s disability that were presented at a parent discussion group with The Warren Center’s Dr. Kelsey Klindt.

1. Here’s how to talk to children about disabilities

You will often encounter curious children who may pose questions about your child, whether they be cousins or friends at your child’s play date.

Normalize conversations:

Examples:

2. How to talk to siblings about their siblings’ disability

Child development experts with the Center for Parent Information and Resources say it’s important to be open, honest, and give information at their level. All of their feelings are valid and appropriate. Parents should offer validation and not be dismissive.

Know that their reactions may vary across a wide spectrum:

Things like age, gender, and birth order can make a difference:

Click here for a list of 10 great books to read to your child if they have a sibling with special needs.

3. How to talk to grandparents and extended family about your child’s disability

Opening the conversation:

Getting others involved:

4. What if they still don’t get it?